BREATH YOU TAKE by GEORGE STRAIT

He looks up from second base Dad's up in the stands
He saw the hit, the run,the slide
There ain't no bigger fan.

In the parking lot
After the game he said
"Dad i thought you had a plane to catch"
He smiled and said "Yeah son, I did."

CHORUS

But life's not the breaths you take
Breathin' in and out
That gets you through the day
Ain't what it's all about

You just might miss the point
Tryin' to win the race
Life's not the breaths you take
But the moments that take your breath away

Fast forward fifteen years
And a thousand miles away
Boy's built a life, he's got a wife
And a baby due today

He hears a voice sayin'
"I made it, son."
He said "I told you dad, you didn't have to come"
He smiles and says, "Yeah, I know you did."

CHORUS

But life's not the breaths you take
Breathin' in and out
That gets you through the day
Ain't what it's all about.

You just might miss the point
Tryin' yo win the race
Life's not the breaths you take
But the moments that take your breath away

BRIDGE

Just like it took my breath
when she was born
Just like it took my breath away
When dad took his last that morn

CHORUS

Life's not the breaths you take
Breathin' in and out
That gets you through the day
Ain't what it's all about

You just might miss the point
If ya don't slow down the pace
Life's not the breaths you take
But the moments that take your breath away

Reminiscing

I remember when you were born like it was yesterday. You were so beautiful! The nurses were commenting on your big eyes, long eye lashes and head full of dark hair before I was even able to see you. Since you were a C-Section, I couldn't see you, but could only listen to what they were saying. You changed my life in that instant and there is no doubt that I thought you were amazing! (And I still do.) You could hold your head up before we left the hospital and had such beautiful dark complexion to go with your grayish blue eyes. You looked like a little porcelain doll because your features were so perfect.

Before you were born, I used to tell people that you were breech because you wanted to come out telling the whole world to kiss your butt. I would tell them that you were destined to be stubborn and that's why you wouldn't turn. You wanted to do things your way cause you were so independent already. Little did I know that my the jokes I was making before you were born would describe you so perfectly.

Of course you aren't always smiles and sass. You are my deep thinker. You are so smart. I know that all moms think their kids are smart.....but no joke you really are. After all, everyone that knows you knows that you were using words like "frustrated" and "disgusted" when you were three. And of course, there is the whole "DILAPIDATED" incident from when we had you tested to go into kindergarten early.

You loved being read to before you could crawl, walk, or talk. I can only pray your love to learn and your love of reading continues throughout your life. Recently we started reading chapter books before bedtime. You are so funny cause you always want "just one more chapter" every night. I think you would let me read to you till you fell asleep. (AND I might add probably get mad at me because I LET you fall asleep while I was reading.)

I find it hard to believe that a week and a half ago you turned seven. Tomorrow I will drop you off for your first day of 1st grade. It seems silly that you are only seven, and yet tonight I am sitting here wondering where the time has gone. It seems like just yesterday you were my baby girl and now you are a little girl. Even when I look at your pictures from just last year I can see how much you change. You are growing up too fast already and I can't imagine how I will feel in ten years when you are seventeen. I already miss the time that has past.

All I can do is the best I can and enjoy the moments today so that I don't ever regret missing anything later on in life. Have fun in first grade baby girl! I love you so much!

Reconnecting

With my boyfriend out of town and my kids with their dad, I find myself a little lonely this week. I have to be honest, this makes me feel a little pathetic.

I am not going to lie.....last night, I moped a little bit. I almost went into work just for something to do. So instead I went to sleep....at six thirty at night. I woke up at 11pm and spend some time on facebook, then watched a cheesy chick flick, and went back to bed about three in the morning.

I woke up too early this morning to go into work, and was dragging from the weird sleep from the night before. So today, when I got off work, I decided to go out and have a little "Mindy" time. What better opportunity than when you can't see the people you love, right?

So I had dinner with an old friend from my high school youth group, Nikki. We went to Hacienda and had a really nice time talking. After I got home, I took a short nap, and then met another old friend, Bobby for a drink. We also, had a really nice time talking and reconnecting.

I love reconnecting with old friends. What I love more is staying connected with friends. Sometimes I have to wonder how it is you lose contact with your "old" friends. I even lost contact with Sarah, who is my best friend now, for a short period of time. I am thankful to facebook for being the vessel that has reconnected me with some really awesome people.

Point being that I had a really great evening with friends from the past. It made me realize two things, other than the fact that I had a great time with two really awesome people tonight.

The first is that people really need to cherish the relationships they have. I don't want to take for granted the loving family and friends that have made me who I am today. I think I need, and want to try harder to let these awesome people in my life know how much I love and appreciate them.

The second thing tonight that I realized is that I really miss my kids and my boyfriend. Apparently, the saying is that absence makes the heart grow fonder, right?? They have only been gone since Sunday and I miss them.

So, even though I am still feeling a little pathetic, I had a great night having some "Mindy" time with my friends. Maybe, some much needed "Mindy" time. However, I am ready for the people I love to come home and see me.

Playing Poker

The other night my boyfriend and I went for a walk. One of those late night walks that lasted a few hours. One of those walks where we talked nonstop about life for the entire night.

A couple of times I stopped and just smiled. When I did this he would think there was something wrong, but in all actuality, there was nothing wrong at all.

Its kinda silly, but I was just stopping to take it all in. I wanted to remember that moment because I am walking on new ground with this relationship. You would think there would be nothing new to me when it comes to relationships, as I am 31 years old.

Honestly, I find it hard to believe I can find anything at all to talk about for that long with this man. I have known him for almost twelve years we have nothing in common. Nothing is a bad word to use here. Let's just say opposites attract.

I am a politically conservative Christian and I attend a Missionary Church. I love watching dramas and chick flicks, with an occasional action or suspense movie. I love the food channel. I love reading and collecting old books, but really just love to read the classic literature and poetry. I love the farm life and living in a small town. I am happiest when surrounded by all the people I love. I love a good debate, so long as I am not the one debating.

He is a Catholic Democrat.

Yep that's right. He is an oxy moron and I tell him so all the time. He is a Catholic Democrat that loves to watch the history channel and the science channel for hours on end. He enjoys action and science fiction movies. He seems to prefer to read non-fiction as opposed to classic novels, however has read more classic literature than I probably have. He also loves to be surrounded by loved ones, but is always the one at the center of any debate. He's from Chicago and loves the city life.

But....

We have some important things in common, other than the fact that we share the same friends. We both love God and believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross so that we could be saved. We both love animals and collecting old books. We both love to be surrounded by loved ones. We have both been through the heartache of a Divorce that we didn't want....

Yup, that's about it for the commonalities between us. Oh yeah, and we enjoy going for walks.

I had a point here before I got side tracked....

Oh yeah....During our walk I stopped to take it all in. The newness of the relationship and the time we were sharing together. I don't remember a conversation ever lasting for hours on end with my ex husband, and we were together for ten years.

I mentioned this thought to my boyfriend and he started talking about how this is definitely not where he would ever see his life going. He used the phrase, "playing with the Hand the God deals you."

I thought it was funny at the time, as we were discussing past relationships and how we got to where we are today. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized it was true.

Life is kinda a game of poker.

The perfect life is a Royal Flush. The odds of getting dealt that hand are slim to none...so we hope for a full house.

Sometimes we are dealt crap. We can either fold or try to bluff in hopes of getting by. We trade in a few cards in hopes of getting something better. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose.

Point being.......

I wish I could just fold, but I have to much pride for that. I am gonna play the cards God put in front of me. I might win and I might lose.

But I am gonna keep playing till God gives me a full house.

Plan B

Tonight, I attended Wednesday night Church for the first time since youth group. A friend directed me up to a class called "Plan B." In a nutshell, it talked about how to deal when things in your life that don't go the way they are supposed to....when you are forced to revert to "plan B."

It was, unfortunately, the last class in the session, but it still hit home.

My whole life right now is my Plan B. Well.....maybe Plan C, or Plan Z......depending on what part of my life we are talking about.

Obviously, Plan A disintegrated the day Chad told me he didn't love me anymore. Though I tried to change his mind, I was forced to move on to Plan B.

PLAN B: Life without Chad

In the class, he asked what surprised us the most about ourselves after the events that occured forced us to move on to Plan B. The answer in my head was instant.

I AM strong.

Over the last year, I have learned that I have strength that I never knew I had. I heard so many times when I was going through it all that "God will not give you more than you can handle." There were times I would hear this several times a day.

There were times I wanted to punch the people in the face that were saying it, too. (Of course, I never really punched anyone in the face because I am not a violent person. I know that they just cared and wanted me to know that God cared too.)

Don't get me wrong, it wasn't that I didn't believe what they were saying. I KNEW without a doubt that God would give me the strength. Seriously, though.......did I have to hear it every time someone tried to encourage me.

There was a point in time where I thought God had way more faith in me than I had in myself. Did God seriously think I could handle all of this? It wasn't just the divorce, there was other things going on in life that were also not the way they were supposed to be. I had such a heavy load, that I thought my back was going to break. My feet were going to give out from underneath me. I wanted to look up at the sky and say "Seriously, God? Are you sure?"

But......

I made it through. God walked beside me the whole way. And on those days that I felt like the ground was going to give way underneigth me, he carried me.

I felt like I was standing on a ledge. I felt like I was gonna fall. But I knew that God wouldn't let me fall, and if by some chance I did fall.........God would be there to catch me or give me wings to fly.

Plan B is not what I had planned on, but the sky is the limit and I have wings to fly.

Dancing around the Truth

"Why can't we be a family anymore?"
"Why don't you live with daddy now?"
"How come Samantha gets to live with daddy instead of you?"
"Will we ever be able to live together with you and daddy?"
"I want you to come over so you can see daddy. Can you?"
"Why aren't you and daddy married anymore?"
"Lil Grandma says that daddy doesn't love you anymore. Why?"
"Did you and daddy fight all the time?"
"Will my cousin Michael ever get to see my daddy again?"


AND THE WORST ONE YET.........

"Mommy, I have a wish but my wish will never come true......Mommy, If I wished that you and daddy could live together as roommates again, do you think that wish would come true? It's ok mommy, I know it won't come true."



After over a year, I like to think that I am doing better than most people would be under the same circumstances. God has shown me love. He has given me strength. I have done a great job of moving on and making my life better. I am happy and healthy. I don't get sad when I think about Chad or the divorce. Not even a little bit. That the honest truth.

But when it comes to the innocent, heartfelt questions from, my five year old, my heart breaks. My heart doesn't break for me. I can deal with what the choices my ex husband has made have done to me. My heart breaks for Christina and Logan.

How do you answer these questions? How do I explain such things to a Six year old, especially when I don't even know all the answers?

So I do the best I can, because I refuse to be the one that says bad things about the other parent. I refuse to lie to her, but there are some things that I know she just won't understand. So I sidestep my way around answering the questions completely. Someday, when the time is right she will want real answers. When that time comes, hopefully, a long time from now, I will tell her.

Until then, I am dancing around the truth........

SMILE by Judy Garland (Just so I know where to find the lyrics quickly)

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it's breaking
When there are clouds, in the sky, you'll get by

If you smile, through your fear and sorrow
Smile, and there'll be tomorrow
You'll see the sun come shining through

If you'll....

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear, may be ever so near,

That's the time, you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile,

If you'll just....

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear, may be ever so near,

That's the time, you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile,

If you'll just....

Smile